When The F*cked Up Truth Finally Hits
Rock bottom is where our best life finally begins if we have the courage to hold ourselves accountable because surviving is not the same as living.
At some point, those of us who have experienced this lowest of lows have to break down the hard-hitting truths of life—the failures, the few successes, the messy relationships that did us dirty and our own f*cked-up mindsets that caused some chaos of our own.
For many of us, reality eventually breaks open the wounds we have carried for years — childhood trauma, daddy or mommy issues and other pain points we blatantly ignored. As for myself, I remained “blissfully” ignorant within my comfort zones, convincing myself that if my public appearance remained on point while I lived life as though nothing had negatively impacted my cerebral architecture, everything else would somehow work itself out. And if things did not come to fruition, I had the “magic potion” that made me “survive” by numbing myself into a negligent state of cognitive paralysis.
Sometimes it takes losing someone or having the “puppeteers of life” rip the rug out from under us as we tumble down the basement stairs, before we finally recognize that we still have a decent amount of years left to work towards an idolized life in serenity.
Most critically, it is imperative that we don’t allow ourselves to negatively fixate on the hardships the universe seems to love throwing our way while reminding ourselves that it can always be worse — to never lose sight of all that we have to be thankful for — and that slow progress is still progress. For there once was a time when we wished to be where we are or have what we have during these trying times.
There is a hidden blessing in every f*cked-up situation, even when we can’t see it in the moment. The lesson or “bright side” will be undoubtedly clear to us when it is our time to understand what we could not see before.
If you have not hit rock bottom or its basement, let me tell you this: whether life takes us there or not, fortifying our resolve can immerse us in an all-consuming determination that awakens and transforms our perseverance into something unstoppable.
For those of us who have hit “rock bottom,” it often becomes the catalyst for finding the strength and courage to make the life-altering changes necessary to work toward a healthier, more prosperous life that we otherwise might never have pursued. We will now be on a lifelong journey to rewire our trauma-conditioned behaviors through accountability and intentional choices for meaningful outcomes so we do not get stuck in the muck of life and can finally live peacefully in our truth.
Through every battle life forces us to fight, lie countless opportunities to transcend the lives we once settled for, so long as we work each day to become better than who we were yesterday.
We must also remember that there will always be “slip-ups” because no one is perfect — we are imperfectly perfect.
No more running from it—time for us to face life head-on and keep on truckin’ toward our dreams, with zero care for what anyone else thinks because our pasts will never define who we are and we damn sure will not allow them to be weaponized against us.
